Domestic Abuse can include a range of behaviours such as:
|Being verbally abused and humiliated
Being constantly blamed
Being put down in front of other people
Being kept away from family and friends
Being forced to watch or act out pornography
Being talked to in sexually degrading ways
Indecent phone calls
|Being kept without money
Having wages, benefits or pension being taken away from you
Having to account for all your spending
Important things to remember:
- Recognise it is happening to you.
- Accept that you are not to blame.
- Seek help and support.
- Make a crisis safety plan - seek advice from support agencies e.g Women's Aid, Police, Men's Advisory Project.
- Get advice about your legal rights and protection.
Signs of Domestic Abuse
Here are some of the signs you can look out for:
- Their partner puts them down in front of other people
- They are constantly worried about making their partner angry
- They make excuses for their partner’s behaviour
- Their partner is extremely jealous or possessive
- They have unexplained marks or injuries
- They’ve stopped spending time with friends and family
- They are depressed or anxious, or you notice changes in their personality
You may be a neighbour who may have seen or heard:
- Threatening and intimidating arguments, which may involve violent language or escalate to smashing up the furniture.
- Arguments where the partner blames the other for their actions, saying they are “asking for it” or deserve the abuse.
- Individuals with bruising or other visible marks, which may have been caused by physical abuse.